“Bitch”, “Slut”, “Aunty”: Why we need Feminism?

Question: What do you call a woman who is not sexually available to you, or doesn’t give a damn about your sexual advances or does not agree to your opinions or minds her  own business?

Answer” Any of the following: Bitch, Slut, Aunty, Behenji… and the list is endless.

It doesn’t matter what a woman has achieved, how much hard work she has put in to get where she is, if she does not conform to the society’s (read patriarchal) standard of being just a sexual object, then she deserves to be called by names and made fun of.

Sadly a lot of women too get on the wagon when a woman who is ahead of them is made fun of.

When people say, we don’t need feminism anymore, this is what comes to mind and all I wish to say to them is “Hey, we need feminism now more than ever, because it’s 21st century and women are still fighting for equal pay for equal work. they are still fighting to be equally represented in politics. they are still struggling to become more than just a sex symbol.” But I don’t because, guess what, I fear being called a “Bitch” or an “Aunty” and just like that my voice is silenced.

I have heard men say that they are also under-represented and often don’t find an outlet to talk about their struggles. I want to tell such men, that this why we need feminism, because it’s not just about equal rights for women, it’s about gender equality. It’s about everyone having the right and the platform to say and demand what they want without feeling any emotional or mental restriction because of their gender. But I don’t because, come on, do I really want to be called a “Bitch” or an “Aunty” and just like that my voice is silenced.

Why do people take the word equality as equivalent to women asking for priviledges. Hey, no one’s asking for priviledges, not at the cost of their freedom. Equality doesn’t mean women want to rule the world. Equality means they want to be on the same dais as you, making their voices heard and their contributions in decisions which affect all genders equally. Equality is not just for the men and the women but for all human beings irrespective of what gender they identify with, or whatever their sexual preferences are. But do I ever say this to a gathering of men? No, because, hey I told you already, I don’t want to be called a “bitch” or an “Aunty” and just like that my voice is silenced.

 

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